Bought by the Blood

July 29, 2015

For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his paths. (Proverbs 5:21 ESV)

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When it comes to battling lust and pornography it is important to keep in mind three things: the good, the bad and what it means to be godly.  Here are some reflections taken from Proverbs 5 on this topic.

The Good:

As men we have a sex organ that is literally a fountain.  That fountain can either be frustrated (Proverbs 5:16-17) or it can be blessed.  The way it is blessed is by rejoicing in the wife of your youth (Proverbs 5:18).  I have been particularly struck by v. 19 in this Proverb, “be intoxicated always in her love.”  A beer does not make me intoxicated, but being intentional to drink the beer makes me intoxicated.  It isn’t just one drink either, but it’s going back to it continually.  It is the same way with my wife, I have to be intentional about setting her above all else and looking to her as what I find intoxicating and delightful at all times.

Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; – Proverbs 5:19

The Bad:

It may be easy to place blame on the wife and say she has a lower sex drive and isn’t interested having her breasts fill you.  That is blame shifting and we can still control what we desire.  The dire consequences of looking elsewhere to fulfill our fountains are extreme as well.  The one who looks to either breasts for delight will find himself saying, “I am at the brink of utter ruin (Proverbs 5:14).” The woman who wants to tempt you with her breasts online (or in real life) or in a friendship that doesn’t honor God or your marriage is one whose “feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol; (Proverbs 5:5)” and she wants to take you with her.

The Godly:

If you are not married it can be easy to find this passage depressing because you don’t have a wife to delight in and our society and culture makes lust and pornography look not that wrong.  One of the things that I enjoy about this passage is that the reason for avoiding lust and pornography isn’t ultimate to protect marriage.  The motivating factor for purity isn’t your current spouse or future spouse, but it is God:

For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his paths. (Proverbs 5:21 ESV)

When you are tempted to flirt with that co-worker God’s eyes are on you and he knows the path your mind is going down.  When you are about to click on that link to the inappropriate website God’s eyes are on you and he knows the path your mind is going down.

When you look at the woman dressed inappropriate and start to undress her with your mind God’s eyes are on you and he knows the path your mind is going down.

This verse is why youth pastor’s would always say, imagine God is with you in the room/car/movie theater when you are on a date.  If you aren’t married and on a date God’s eyes are on you and he knows the intentions of your heart in regards to if you want to guard her purity or use her for sexual fulfillment even if you don’t have sex.

July 28, 2015

having a pure heart and free from infidelity and pornography

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Proverbs 4:22 says that I must de diligent to keep a pure heart for from it flows the wellspring of life. The game plan for this starts with my speech. Am I being honest about my struggles? Am I speaking to other women in a way that glorifies God and my wife? Another important component is my eyes. Are they gazing directly ahead at my wife and seeing her for the blessing she is or am I looking elsewhere in a discontented manner. Lastly I must consider where I am going. Do I go to God for fulfillment or am I looking to the world to satisfy me? There is a narrow path I am called to and it is a path off righteousness that is paved by intentionality. If I am intentional about keeping my marriage vows I will pursue to be right in all of ways, thoughts and actions.

Keep your heart with all vigilance,
for from it flow the springs of life.
Put away from you crooked speech,
and put devious talk far from you.
Let your eyes look directly forward,
and your gaze be straight before you.
Ponder the path of your feet;
then all your ways will be sure.
Do not swerve to the right or to the left;
turn your foot away from evil.

(Proverbs 4:23-27 ESV)

July 8, 2015

Lust and Pornography Versus Fearing God

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Nothing can compare to knowing God, not even pornography, masturbation or impure relationships. Fearing God will lead to blessing, but sexual sin always frustrates. The way of purity leads to pleasantness and peace, but impurity only leads to stress and death.

Blessed Is the One Who Finds Wisdom

Blessed is the one who finds wisdom,
and the one who gets understanding,
for the gain from her is better than gain from silver
and her profit better than gold.
She is more precious than jewels,
and nothing you desire can compare with her.
Long life is in her right hand;
in her left hand are riches and honor.
Her ways are ways of pleasantness,
and all her paths are peace.

She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her;
those who hold her fast are called blessed.

(Proverbs 3:13-18 ESV)

July 7, 2015

Deliverance From Sexual Sin

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Not every man has to be enslaved to sexual sin. Proverbs 2:16 warns what happens if deliverance does not come which means that there must be a way to be delivered. Here are some of my notes on the first part of Proverbs 2 about where deliverance is found:

1)”knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.” deliverance comes from allowing yourself to be known, not having any areas hidden from others. Others should have full knowledge of your temptations and what the battle looks like including victory and defeat. (v. 10)

2)”he is a shield to those who walk in integrity” this is a life and death battle and we must cling tightly to the shield of faith. We can’t be too overconfident in our abilities without it. My God will guard me from every attack if I choose to not walk directly in the line of fire, but instead to walk in integrity by choosing the good path of righteousness and justice (v. 7-9)

3)”discretion will watch over you, understanding will guard you.” it is imperative to use common sense. Choose boundaries with relationships of the opposite sex. If you know there is a mine field do you walk in it. Understand what your temptations are and ensure you have hedges of protection. Remember, this is not a harmless matter, but life or death, so go into no situation blind to the dangers it may present. Always have a plan, for example, I am very tempted in the early morning so I need to have a concrete plan of things I want to accomplish when I wake up early because idle hands are typically seek out the forbidden woman for me (v. 11)

If you read this far I’d love to hear you find deliverance from sexual sin.

July 6, 2015

The Danger of Lust and Pornography

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DEATH

So you will be delivered from the forbidden woman,
from the adulteress with her smooth words,
who forsakes the companion of her youth
and forgets the covenant of her God;
for her house sinks down to death,
and her paths to the departed;
none who go to her come back,
nor do they regain the paths of life.

(Proverbs 2:16-19 ESV)

The porn star, the woman in skimpy clothes and the one who flirts inappropriately all lead to death. The time spent investing in her never come back. The scars that affect others because of her never fully heal. She is called forbidden for a reason, she only comes to steal and destroy.

None who go to her come back. On my own strength I cannot leave just like how Lazarus could not leave the tomb until Jesus called him out. There is a deliverance that can be found because there is power in the blood of Christ. Despite that there is still a cost of sin that must be paid. Jesus paid the price for freedom, but there are still consequences. Contemplate your relationships with others are damaged by lust and pornography and magnify that by infinity and that is the grief that is given to the Holy Spirit.

Thanks be to God that there is a deliverance that can be had as referenced in v. 16. Next I will blog on Proverbs 2 about the deliverance it references.

July 3, 2015

i wish someone had told me this about lust and pornography

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“they lie in wait for their own blood; They ambush their own lives. So are the ways of everyone who gains by impure means; It takes away the life of its possessors.”

The quote above is a slight rephrasing of proverbs 1:18-19

Proverbs 1:18-19 (NASB)

“But they lie in wait for their own blood; They ambush their own lives. So are the ways of everyone who gains by violence; It takes away the life of its possessors.”

April 2, 2015

The Source Of True Happiness

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true happiness begins with being poor in spirit (v. 3). That means you have a right attitude toward sin, and that leads you to mourn over it (v. 4). Mourning over sin produces a meekness that leads to hungering and thirsting for righteousness (vv. 5-6), which results in mercy, purity of heart, and a peaceable spirit (vv. 7-9)—attitudes that bring true happiness

From Drawing Near by John MacArthur Copyright © 1993. Used by permission of Crossway Books, a division of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187, http://www.crossway.com.

April 1, 2015

Only Christians know true happiness because they know Christ, who is its source. – John MacArthur

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Jesus taught that happiness is much more than favorable circumstances and pleasant emotions. In fact, it doesn’t necessarily depend on circumstances at all. It is built on the indwelling character of God Himself. As your life manifests the virtues of humility, sorrow over sin, gentleness, righteousness, mercy, purity of heart, and peace, you will experience happiness that even severe persecution can’t destroy.

From Drawing Near by John MacArthur Copyright © 1993. Used by permission of Crossway Books, a division of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187, http://www.crossway.com.

February 5, 2015

The Difference Between Love and Lust

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Love is patient and kind

Lust seeks immediate gratification and taking advantage of another person

love does not envy or boast

Lust is envious of another person’s body and is proud of its sexual conquest prowess

it is not arrogant or rude.

Lust thinks of itself as more important then the object it is desires and pornography by its very nature is crude

It does not insist on its own way

Lust demands that its needs be met before anyone else.

it is not irritable or resentful

Lust is irritated when it does not get its own way and holds bitterness towars that that stop it from having the satisfaction it yearns for.

it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth

Lust rejoices when other fall into its pit of lies and conceals the truth of what real love is behind an quenchable thirst for that which always wants more.

Based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-6

October 17, 2014

Sobered By The Road Ahead

Filed under: Uncategorized — cubsfan1980 @ 3:11 pm

Just read a quote in Doc Gooden’s memoir that strikes me about what fighting pornography addiction is like:

Even the greatest treatment facility just gives you the tools. There is no magic. There is no instant cure. You have to accept your powerlessness and work every day at recovery.

He is talking about recovery from cocaine addiction, but what he said makes me think about misconceptions about the gospel and healing from sexual sin.  In one sense I’ve been cleansed and made pure, but there is still a battle.  In the past I have let up in the battle and pretended like it isn’t there and shortly after I make that decision I have given in.  I have not stumbled since everything came to the light earlier this month, but I know I have not been cured.  The difference between the battle versus in the past is that I know it is an every day working at recovery.  In the past I would be aware of my powerlessness and give in when the desire comes for an extended period of time, but now when the thought of pornography comes to mind I remember where the power lies for victory

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. (Colossians 3:1-3 ESV)

The gospel provides tools at my disposal.  They are not magic tools, but I must actively be engaged in the fight.  Actively being engaged for my purity looks like:

Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed. (Hebrews 12:12-13 ESV)

It is a fight to the death

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. (Colossians 3:5-6 ESV)

That is only won by using the sword of the Spirit

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. (Psalm 119:9 ESV)

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. (Colossians 3:16 ESV)

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