Bought by the Blood

July 3, 2011

Disney Isn’t The Enemy and The Offices of Christ

Earlier this week I read a great blog post from Allen Yeh called, “Why Disney Princesses Are Bad.”  Allen makes some great points about how the Disney princess mindset isn’t helpful for Christian girls and instead we should instill in them the mindset that are priests and not princesses, based on Hebrews 4:16.  The article is excellent, especially for anyone raising daughters.

My only one gripe with the article, is that as we think about Christ Offices, He was more then just a priest, He was also a king and a prophet.  Since Christ is a king, that means that as his adopted children, we are all princes and princes.  Here is a great excerpt from Elyse Fitzpatrick’s book, “Give Them Grace,” on that topic.

Little girls should be protected from thinking that their worth is measured by whether a little boy likes them and think they’re cute or pretty. They need to be taught that loves has been given to them by their Savior and that they don’t need to dress up like a princess to get it. They can be taught that they are the love and delight of their Savior and that he is indeed the great Prince of Heaven. They can read stories about princesses and dress up and pretend. They can use their imagination to imagine being loved by a great prince because, after all, they have been.

Boy should be encouraged to love their sisters and friends who are girls and to respect women and not treat them as having no value except in their appearance. Young boys need to be taught to love, respect, and protect girls because they have been created in the image of God and have been loved by the great warrior Prince.

Lastly, we all fulfill the role of prophet.  That does not mean we walk around saying, “Thus say the Lord,” as we give out revelations from God’s unrevealed will. To raise my kids to be prophets will be to raise them to love God’s Word and encourage them to be quick to build others with wisdom from the Bible and not from secular culture.  Girls will have a tendency to gossip, so if I raise my daughters to be prophetesses that means they will put to death gossip and only speak that which is true and builds others up.  Girls, may also be quick to listen to their feelings, so it is my job to teach them to listen primarily to God’s Word and have that be the primary voice that they echo and let guide them.  Boy can exalt in sports teams and have athletes be their heroes, but as a prophet, instead of celebrating a great sports highlight, I will teach them to ultimately exalt in what Jesus did for them on the cross. A prophet hears God’s word and communicates it to others, that is my prayer for my kids.


April 5, 2009


4 “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. – Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Dear Miya,

It is amazing to think that you are only a week old. As you grow older there will be many idols that compete for your affections. The other gods that will tempt you are friends, beauty, boys and so many others. These are not bad things in and of themselves, but only when not viewed biblically and placed above the one true God.

I was looking at your precious face the other morning and was thinking about your sweet ears in relation to the above verse. The two truths that I want you to never tire of hearing are your mother and father’s love for you. More important than that is the love of the Lord our God, because it is by the love that He has shown to us that we are able to love you.

He is holy, holy, holy and because of your sin you cannot be in relationship with Him. Your mother and I have both offended His holiness and are not worthy to be recipients of His love. He is a gracious and merciful God, there is none like  Him. He is the only god worthy of your worship. The good news about this God is that He offers a way for you to redeemed from your sins and reconciled to Himself through the blood of His Son Jesus. Jesus lived a life of perfect obedience and died the death that you deserved, so that you may have his righteousness and be made alive to God.

Since God has taken the initiative and brought us into relationship with Him, we seek to live our lives for Him. It is not to earn His favor, because we could never earn it. It is in faith, as a way to say thank you and bear our family resemblance to him. Our desire, as we proclaim who God is to you is that you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.  We don’t know if we will homeschool you or what education will look like, but every chance we get will tell you about God’s love for you and His call on your life.

It may not always be in word, but our heart is that our deeds will always reflect the Father’s love to you.  When you see our lives, our desire is that you will see a life that is lived under influence of God’s love.  In the way we care for you see the Father’s care.  In the way we dote over you see God’s delighting over you.  In the way we delight to spend time with you be more aware of God’s delight to spend time with you.  As we journal His wondrous deeds, notice that He is always the same and never changes.  As we encourage you to make godly friendships allows those to point to the character of God.  When we discipline you know we do it because we love you and  it prepares you for God’s discipline as well as is good for you because it teaches you right from wrong. In the way we love to hold you, see how God is always holding in His arms of love.

Little Miya, you are so precious to your mom and I.  As we think about the love that we have for you, one of the things that amazes us, is how great our Heavenly Father’s love is.  We love because He first loved us.  Our love is nothing compared to His.  Inside of us, our love feels so great and so big for you, if we love you this much than His love is truly unimaginable.

O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
Vast unmeasured, boundless, free!
Rolling as a mighty ocean in its fullness over me!
Underneath me, all around me, is the current
Of Thy love
Leading onward, leading homeward to
Thy glorious rest above!

O the deep, deep love of Jesus,
Spread His praise from shore to shore!
How He loveth, ever loveth, changeth
never, nevermore!
How He watches o’er His loved ones,
died to call them all His own
how for them He intercedeth, watcheth
o’er them from the throne!

February 24, 2009

Teaching Your Kids Sexual Purity

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Depending on what time I leave for work I sometimes tune in to the Focus On The Family daily broadcast.  This morning’s broadcast was on teaching your kids sexual purity, which you can listen to here.   In the past I was discouraged about listening to the program because they only had it available for streaming and not for podcast or downloading.  As of recently, all of Focus on The Family radio is now available via podcasting, this definitely makes a difference in my listening because if I don’t hear the whole thing in my commute I can always listen to more later at my convenience.

I have posted before about fatherhood and affection and how it relates to purity and discipline.  The correlation between purity and affection from dad was made really clear in this podcast.   Something I learned from the podcast is it takes 8-10 meaningful touches a day for someone to thrive.  This is even true for teenagers.  If our kids are not finding this affection at home, then they will find it somewhere else.  The co-host then went on to tell a story from a counseling session where a father and daughter had their relationship deteriorate because of a lack of affection and when the daughter felt distanced from her father she sought out unhealthy affection from her boyfriend.

They also talked about how kids growing up today are in the age of the death of innocence. We must be proactive in the area of pornography because the average child will accidentally see it by the age of 10.  We need to teach our kids how to discipline their minds to go to good things when temptation comes.  There are times when I can’t control what I see, but I need to control how my mind reacts to it.  Our kids need to train their thoughts to think about sex in a biblical way, so they are ready when they are bombarded with sexual images and a culture that exalts the idol of sex.

A couple interesting quotes from the program are below:

“25% of young girls who have sex move into an emotional depression”

“kids can’t just be told how far is too far, but what to do when in those situations.”

November 14, 2008

Piper on parenting

There is a great story that John Piper tells about raising girls.  After raising four boys, the Pipers decided to adopt a little girl.  One of the things that was a bit of a learning curve for John was what it’s like to play with girls as opposed to boys.  Below is a humorous story that he told in a message of parenting and biblical masculinity.

Now I’ve got a 5 year old girl we adopted five years ago.  Talitha gets her playtime all to herself.  I did this four times with a guy.  I know guys.  Now I’m doing this with a girl and it doesn’t make any sense to me.  I’m turning this little dolls into bombers, I’m saying, “Let’s do this.  Let’s fly her over, she’ll drop the block on the top and boom!  blow it up!”

She says, “Let’s play people.”

I respond, “Well OK, what do you mean?”She goes over and gets her house and I look at her and say, “Well what are they going to do? What’s going to happen?”

She says, “Well, they’re going to have supper.”

“That’s all!?!?”

“Well, yeah.”

The whole playtime is just rearranging people.  I’m like, come on, we got have a bomber or a helicoptor or something.  Somethings gotta blow up!

The purpose of the story is two-fold.  One, the importance of building affection in the family and the fruit that it will bear down the line.  Secondly, is how if kids are shown that type of affection, than spanking can be a redemptive experience.  On the topic of affection and learning to play with his daughter Piper goes to say:

I’m learning.  I’m trying to figure this out because I’m going to be there for her…Will she want me around when she has to deal with guys and sexual things and guys are going to want her?  Will she come to me?  Will she listen?  My investment right now is the answer to that question.  Right now do I give myself to her?  Right now do I get my hands on her purely, purely, so that she knows what it’s like to be touched purely?  Hugged, kissed, held in my lap, feels a mans body and knows what it’s like.  You don’t have to sell yourself to a mans body, she knows what a pure thing is like.  You can wait for it.  Dads are so important in a kids life.  They grow up healthy because dad touched them in a right way.

Piper goes on to explain that spanking cannot be done out of anger, but as an act of love.  God disciplines His children because He loves them.  If we love our kids we will use discipline so that they don’t grow up to be disobedient and rebellious. Discipline and intimacy go hand in hand.  Children are taught to fear God, by how they fear their parents.  A healthy fear of God does not involve running from God, but running to God and having reverence and respect for Him.  Children should have that same attitude towards their parents as parents show kids the love of Christ.

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