If we are truly wise and fear God in all of our ways then we will stay away from women that God has not allowed us to call our own.
Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend, to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words. (Proverbs 7:4-5 ESV)
The woman who wants me to forsake my vows will use smooth words to make me forget God’s Word, but if I fear God I will remember His calling on my life to live worthy of His calling. He has called me friend and accounted Christ righteousness onto me, so therefore I should live rightly and seek to be pure in all my ways.
If I read further in Proverbs 7 it describes the ways of someone who does not fear God and how that leads to the trap of impurity:
For at the window of my house I have looked out through my lattice, and I have seen among the simple, I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house in the twilight, in the evening, at the time of night and darkness. (Proverbs 7:6-9 ESV)
In the passage above you will notice that the person that Solomon is referring to is someone simple and not wise, young and not mature, but most importantly they have a sense that is in tune with their flesh instead of with God. This leads them to walk in the darkness of the night instead of in the light of the gospel.
And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home; now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait. She seizes him and kisses him, and with bold face she says to him, “I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows; so now I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you. (Proverbs 7:10-15 ESV)
Not walking in the light leads him into a trap. He meets a prostitute, but she doesn’t seem like a prostitute. She appears religious because she has made her sacrifices and paid her vows. She is a wolf’s in sheep clothing. More importantly is a lion on the prowl seeking who she can devour because she is at every corner laying in wait for those not on guard. This is the co-worker showing cleavage, the old acquaintance on facebook and who ever else Satan will use to find you. She has a heart not focused on God, she does not care for that you are a son of the King. She is loud and wants to distract you from the way that you have been called because the path is narrow.
With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life. (Proverbs 7:21-23 ESV)
for many a victim has she laid low, and all her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is the way to Sheol, going down to the chambers of death. (Proverbs 7:26-27 ESV)
She will make a compelling argument. She may even be more seductive and offer to give you a delight that you do not normally receive and take a fill of love that you so eagerly long for (7:18), but know that this is a trap that will cost you your life. What you reap you will sow. A moment of indiscretion leads to destruction. You are not her first victim and she is an expert at destroying the lives of men. You cannot fight her on your own and should not over estimate your strength. If she can slay a mighty throng she can surely slay you. Involve yourself in a community of transparency, confess where your heart is prone to wander and turn from any thing that will lead you down the path of the adulterous woman so you can see the Gospel having more beauty and joy than anything she can offer. Cling to the hope that you are powerless to resist on your own, but God’s spirit can you empower you with the help of others to live for Him.