Bought by the Blood

July 3, 2011

Disney Isn’t The Enemy and The Offices of Christ

Earlier this week I read a great blog post from Allen Yeh called, “Why Disney Princesses Are Bad.”  Allen makes some great points about how the Disney princess mindset isn’t helpful for Christian girls and instead we should instill in them the mindset that are priests and not princesses, based on Hebrews 4:16.  The article is excellent, especially for anyone raising daughters.

My only one gripe with the article, is that as we think about Christ Offices, He was more then just a priest, He was also a king and a prophet.  Since Christ is a king, that means that as his adopted children, we are all princes and princes.  Here is a great excerpt from Elyse Fitzpatrick’s book, “Give Them Grace,” on that topic.

Little girls should be protected from thinking that their worth is measured by whether a little boy likes them and think they’re cute or pretty. They need to be taught that loves has been given to them by their Savior and that they don’t need to dress up like a princess to get it. They can be taught that they are the love and delight of their Savior and that he is indeed the great Prince of Heaven. They can read stories about princesses and dress up and pretend. They can use their imagination to imagine being loved by a great prince because, after all, they have been.

Boy should be encouraged to love their sisters and friends who are girls and to respect women and not treat them as having no value except in their appearance. Young boys need to be taught to love, respect, and protect girls because they have been created in the image of God and have been loved by the great warrior Prince.

Lastly, we all fulfill the role of prophet.  That does not mean we walk around saying, “Thus say the Lord,” as we give out revelations from God’s unrevealed will. To raise my kids to be prophets will be to raise them to love God’s Word and encourage them to be quick to build others with wisdom from the Bible and not from secular culture.  Girls will have a tendency to gossip, so if I raise my daughters to be prophetesses that means they will put to death gossip and only speak that which is true and builds others up.  Girls, may also be quick to listen to their feelings, so it is my job to teach them to listen primarily to God’s Word and have that be the primary voice that they echo and let guide them.  Boy can exalt in sports teams and have athletes be their heroes, but as a prophet, instead of celebrating a great sports highlight, I will teach them to ultimately exalt in what Jesus did for them on the cross. A prophet hears God’s word and communicates it to others, that is my prayer for my kids.

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June 23, 2011

Great Parenting Tips

Filed under: cross,Doug Wolter,God's Faithfulness,Gospel,Whining — cubsfan1980 @ 11:10 pm
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I am supposed to be asleep right now, but I recently found a great new parenting resource that I can’t get enough of.  It is from Doug Wolter and it called, 10 Teachable Moments as Parents.  They are built upon the principle that “God is parenting me as I parent my kids”One of my favorite ones that I’ve read is far is called, “When Your Kids Keep Whining.”  

“Stop whining!”  I’m sure you’ve said that to your kids at one time or another.  You may have even whined back at them showing them how silly they sounded.  But then all of a sudden it hit you.  You’re just like them.  You’re a whiner, too.

I admit it.  I’m still whining even though I’m 34 years old.  It just looks a little different now.  I may not have the annoying whiny voice, but when I don’t get my way I complain and wonder why God is taking so long to answer me.  I don’t like to wait.  I’d rather whine.  I don’t like to keep knocking on the door of my prayer closet.  I’d rather keep complaining to my spouse at the dinner table.  I forget God’s faithfulness in the past and wonder why he can’t speed up the present.  Instead of waiting, I’m whining.

If anyone had a right to whine it was Jesus. Condescending to us as a poor, humble man destined to die on a cross for selfish rebels like us, he had every right to whine and complain.  Instead he lived a life of submission to his Father and dependence on the Spirit.  Yes he was God.  And yes he was sinless.  But he was also human.  He was tempted.  And He could’ve complained.  But he didn’t.  He waited and relied on his Father.  He trusted and depended on the Spirit.

So the next time your kid whines, stop and remember that you’re a whiner too.  But in Christ you don’t have to whine.  You can submit to your Father’s will and quietly depend on the Spirit to lead you.

 

June 4, 2011

Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick – A Review

With some parenting books, it is hard to read them cover to cover.  Often times when reading a parenting book I’ll go to the table of contents and flip to the section that covers the age range of my child.  “Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids With The Love of Jesus” by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson is different, you will not only read it cover to cover, but also find yourself reading it again and again.  This book will help you to see that your child’s biggest problem isn’t their sinful action, but their sinful hearts.  When reading this book you will see that your parenting can never be good enough, but only God’s grace can make your parenting sufficient to transform your child.

This book is written without being divided into practical application for the age range of children.  The reason for this is because when dealing with toddlers, teenagers and even adults there is no difference with the root of issues that come up.  Kids, just like adults, don’t need more rules to make them good and bring them closer to God.  “Give Them Grace” does not ignore the need for rules, training and discipline but it gives the crucial reminder that all of that is meant to lead to kids to Jesus.  “We are commanded to give them the law so that they will be crushed by it and see their need for a Savior. The law won’t make them good. It will make them despair of ever being good enough and in that way it will make them open to the love, sacrifice and welcome of their Savior, Jesus Christ.”

It isn’t just kids who need Jesus, but also parents.  The task of parenting is impossible without God’s grace.  Our best effort at parenting might produce “good kids” but it won’t change their hearts.  “Raising good kids is utterly impossible unless they are drawn by the Holy Spirit to put their faith in the goodness of another. You cannot raise good kids, because you’re not a good parent. There is only one good Parent, and he had one good Son. Together, this Father and Son accomplished everything that needed to be done to rescue us and our children from certain destruction.” One of the things I appreciated about this book is the humility of the authors.  They don’t claim to have it down or be good parents.  They are in the same boat as all of us and write with humility as they proclaim their own need for grace.

I wish Crossway would allow me to give out one free chapter of this book for you to read because by just reading one chapter I know you’d be convinced to buy the whole book.  Even if Crossway would allow me to give away one free chapter to convince readers to buy the book, it would be hard for me to pick just one that I think people should read because they are all so good.  If you want to apply the gospel to parenting and have your parenting be saturated in the gospel then I could not encourage you enough to buy this book.

A quick note to the men: this is the first Elyse Fitzpatrick book I have ever read.  My wife has read me selections of “Because He Loves Me” and I thought that book sounds good, but the cover is to feminine for me, maybe I’ll read it when an edition comes out with a camouflage cover.  Next my wife shared portions of “Comforts From The Cross,” the cover was less girly, but I feared losing man points because this wasn’t “Strength From The Cross.”  Please don’t make the mistake that Elyse Fitzpatrick only writes for a female audience.  This book isn’t just for mom’s, but also for dad’s.

October 26, 2010

The High Stakes Of Parenting

I have finally started to read “Gospel Powered Parenting” and a lot of my recent tweets are from that book. Here is an excellent quote from chapter two.

“Christians parent with one eye on eternity. Their children will live forever. This is a staggering thought. We cannot imagine, “forever.” Nevertheless, the destiny of our children either will be love that surpasses knowledge, joy inexpressible and full of glory, coupled with peace that passes understanding, or it will be weeping, wailing, and gnashing of teeth. There is no middle ground. Therefore, the Christian does not parent for this life only. The believing parent labors to prepare each child for the day of judgment. The stakes are inexpressibly high.” William Farley

March 25, 2010

Parenting Advice For First Time Parents

Filed under: Family — cubsfan1980 @ 9:38 am
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Pete Wilson has some do’s and don’ts for first time parents.  Parenting 101 | WithoutWax.tv by Pete Wilson.

February 19, 2010

Teaching A Toddler Scripture Memory

Filed under: communion with God,Family,John Piper,parenting — cubsfan1980 @ 10:02 am
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Traffic in the DC area is still pretty bad due to Snowpocalypse.  While driving in today I decided to listen to an old Piper sermon.  In the message I listened to Piper was talking about teaching his two month old daughter scripture memorization.  Prior to listening to this I had not thought about when to teach Miya Scripture verses, but Piper makes a good point about the sooner the better.

Talitha is now two. She is beginning to learn Bible verses by heart. She is also learning the forms of prayer. Why? Why go to the trouble of taking time and effort to repeat over and over the Bible to her? Very simple – when she is a teenager I want her to be godly and pure and holy and loving and humble and kind and submissive and wise. And the Bible says, as plain as day, this comes by treasuring up the Word of God in your heart. “Your word I have treasured in my heart, that I may not sin against you.”

Jesus put it like this in his great prayer for us in John 17:17, “Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.” “Sanctify” is a Biblical word for making a person holy or godly or loving or pure or virtuous or spiritually wise. And these things I want for myself and for my children and for you. So what then should we do this year? If we are sanctified by the truth, and the Word of God is truth, what should we do?

If a doctor says, “You’re very sick and may die of your sickness, but if you will take this medicine, you will get well and live,” and you neglect to take the medicine – too busy, the pills are big and hard to swallow, just forgetful – you are going to stay sick and you may die. That’s the way it is with sin and spiritual immaturity. If you neglect what God tells you will sanctify you and make you mature and strong and holy, then you will not be mature and strong and holy. Reading, and meditating on and memorizing and cherishing the Word of God is God’s appointed way of overcoming sin and becoming a strong, godly, mature, loving, wise person.

via Open My Eyes That I May See :: Desiring God Christian Resource Library.

February 3, 2010

What Kind of Legacy Am I Leaving?

Filed under: Family,parenting — cubsfan1980 @ 9:48 am
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Not only does Chick-fil-A have some of the best food around, but I love the heart of their CEO.  Below is an excerpt from his blog about leaving a legacy for your kids.  Definitely great things to think about as parents have an eternal impact.

As a parent, I think part of our job is to be contagious and infect our kids with the best of what we’re capable of. The joy, the hope, the hard work, the trust in the Lord. We’ve got so many wonderful things to hand down to our kids. But when we get distracted, when we lose our focus, we might end up being shocked what they’ve picked up from the way we live our lives.

Read the rest at Being a Contagious Parent.

January 6, 2010

Spanking, it does a child good

Filed under: Discipline,Family,parenting — cubsfan1980 @ 8:53 am
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Driving into work I heard about this study that was done that shows that kids who are spanked do better in school and generally lead happier lives as they grow older.

According to the research, children spanked up to the age of 6 were likely as teenagers to perform better at school and were more likely to carry out volunteer work and to want to go to college than their peers who had never been physically disciplined.

But children who continued to be spanked into adolescence showed clear behavioral problems.

Children’s groups and lawmakers in the UK have tried several times to have physical chastisement by parents outlawed, the Times of London reported. They claim it is a form of abuse that causes long-term harm to children and say banning it would send a clear signal that violence is unacceptable.

However, Marjorie Gunnoe, professor of psychology at Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan, said her study showed there was insufficient evidence to deny parents the freedom to choose how they discipline their children.

“The claims made for not spanking children fail to hold up. They are not consistent with the data,” said Gunnoe. “I think of spanking as a dangerous tool, but there are times when there is a job big enough for a dangerous tool. You just don’t use it for all your jobs.”

Research into the effects of spanking was previously hampered by the inability to find enough children who had never been spanked, given its past cultural acceptability.

But Gunnoe’s work drew on a study of 2,600 people, about a quarter of whom had never been physically chastised.

Read it at: Study: Spanked Children May Grow Up to Be Happier, More Successful – Children’s Health – FOXNews.com.

December 8, 2009

16 Daddy Christmas Tips From Mark Driscoll

Filed under: Christmas,leadership,Mark Driscoll,parenting — cubsfan1980 @ 12:02 pm
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Mark Driscoll has 16 tips for dad to help us represent Christ to our families.  I’d highly recommend all the dads reading this to check it out.

“’Tis the season for Dad to drop the holiday ball, stress out as the money is being spent for presents, and miss yet another providential opportunity to lovingly lead his family. So, this blog is intended to help dads not fall into the same old rut of holiday humdrum, sitting on the couch watching football and eating carbs, but rather intentionally plan out the upcoming holiday season. Our children grow quickly and if we miss the sacred moments God opens up for us to connect with and bless our families, everyone suffers and we set in motion generations of missed opportunity.”

Read the rest at The Mars Hill Blog | Blog Archive » 16 Daddy Christmas Tips.

November 12, 2009

Savoring Time With Our Kids

The following is an excerpt from Voddie Baucham Jr.’s book “Family Driven Faith.”

Image courtesy of thsc.org

When Joe Gibbs retired from coaching (he later returned to the profession), a reporter asked him why he was calling it quits when he seemed to be on top of his game.  Gibb’s response is legendary.  He said he went home one evening after one of his legendary twelve-or fourteen hour days and decided to go kiss his boys good night.  He went into their rooms only to discover they had become men, and he had missed it!

Joe Gibbs learned a lesson that far too many parents learn way too late.  Time is precious, and you only get one chance to raise your children.  They are only young once, and they are only in your home for a short while.  Once they are born the clock starts ticking, and there nothing you can do to stop it or slow it down.  Your only hope is to make the most of the time you have.  I’m sure Joe Gibbs would tell you that none of the trophies, money, or accolades he earned as an NFL head coach was worth the price he, and especially his children, paid.

I look at my daughter sometimes, and I just want to weep.  As I write this, she is fifteen years old.  She has gone from a precious little bundle of joy to a beautiful young woman right before my eyes.  In a few short years she will  be gone.  My old son is only a few years behind her.  I constantly pray that God will give me ways to cheat the clock and multiply out our time together.  I want to savor every moment.  That mean I have to make the effort.

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