Bought by the Blood

March 13, 2013

John Piper on Parenting in Light of Romans 12:1

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Parents, teach your children that the behavior and attitudes you expect from them are built on something! Don’t say, “Just do it.” As they get older help them see that the standards of thought and attitude and action and entertainment and ministry and mercy are all built on the mercy of God in Christ. Help them see that Christian living is not a list of do’s and don’ts, it is a way of showing the glory of God and Christ. Help them see that Christian living—for children and teenagers and adults—is built on the gospel—on the beauty of Christ crucified and risen and reigning. The question is not mainly, “What’s wrong with this music or this movie or this party or this dress or these drugs or these friends?” The question is, How can I act and speak and feel so that I help my friends see the worth of Jesus above all music and movies and parties and friends? How can I live to show that Jesus didn’t come into the world to help me party better but to help me love better and die better?

Cultivate in your home the understanding of the word “therefore” in Romans 12:1. Help the children absorb this worldview. The Christian life has roots. It has foundation. It is built on something. -John Piper

Taken from Build Your Life on the Mercies of God

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July 3, 2011

Disney Isn’t The Enemy and The Offices of Christ

Earlier this week I read a great blog post from Allen Yeh called, “Why Disney Princesses Are Bad.”  Allen makes some great points about how the Disney princess mindset isn’t helpful for Christian girls and instead we should instill in them the mindset that are priests and not princesses, based on Hebrews 4:16.  The article is excellent, especially for anyone raising daughters.

My only one gripe with the article, is that as we think about Christ Offices, He was more then just a priest, He was also a king and a prophet.  Since Christ is a king, that means that as his adopted children, we are all princes and princes.  Here is a great excerpt from Elyse Fitzpatrick’s book, “Give Them Grace,” on that topic.

Little girls should be protected from thinking that their worth is measured by whether a little boy likes them and think they’re cute or pretty. They need to be taught that loves has been given to them by their Savior and that they don’t need to dress up like a princess to get it. They can be taught that they are the love and delight of their Savior and that he is indeed the great Prince of Heaven. They can read stories about princesses and dress up and pretend. They can use their imagination to imagine being loved by a great prince because, after all, they have been.

Boy should be encouraged to love their sisters and friends who are girls and to respect women and not treat them as having no value except in their appearance. Young boys need to be taught to love, respect, and protect girls because they have been created in the image of God and have been loved by the great warrior Prince.

Lastly, we all fulfill the role of prophet.  That does not mean we walk around saying, “Thus say the Lord,” as we give out revelations from God’s unrevealed will. To raise my kids to be prophets will be to raise them to love God’s Word and encourage them to be quick to build others with wisdom from the Bible and not from secular culture.  Girls will have a tendency to gossip, so if I raise my daughters to be prophetesses that means they will put to death gossip and only speak that which is true and builds others up.  Girls, may also be quick to listen to their feelings, so it is my job to teach them to listen primarily to God’s Word and have that be the primary voice that they echo and let guide them.  Boy can exalt in sports teams and have athletes be their heroes, but as a prophet, instead of celebrating a great sports highlight, I will teach them to ultimately exalt in what Jesus did for them on the cross. A prophet hears God’s word and communicates it to others, that is my prayer for my kids.

June 23, 2011

Great Parenting Tips

Filed under: cross,Doug Wolter,God's Faithfulness,Gospel,Whining — cubsfan1980 @ 11:10 pm
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I am supposed to be asleep right now, but I recently found a great new parenting resource that I can’t get enough of.  It is from Doug Wolter and it called, 10 Teachable Moments as Parents.  They are built upon the principle that “God is parenting me as I parent my kids”One of my favorite ones that I’ve read is far is called, “When Your Kids Keep Whining.”  

“Stop whining!”  I’m sure you’ve said that to your kids at one time or another.  You may have even whined back at them showing them how silly they sounded.  But then all of a sudden it hit you.  You’re just like them.  You’re a whiner, too.

I admit it.  I’m still whining even though I’m 34 years old.  It just looks a little different now.  I may not have the annoying whiny voice, but when I don’t get my way I complain and wonder why God is taking so long to answer me.  I don’t like to wait.  I’d rather whine.  I don’t like to keep knocking on the door of my prayer closet.  I’d rather keep complaining to my spouse at the dinner table.  I forget God’s faithfulness in the past and wonder why he can’t speed up the present.  Instead of waiting, I’m whining.

If anyone had a right to whine it was Jesus. Condescending to us as a poor, humble man destined to die on a cross for selfish rebels like us, he had every right to whine and complain.  Instead he lived a life of submission to his Father and dependence on the Spirit.  Yes he was God.  And yes he was sinless.  But he was also human.  He was tempted.  And He could’ve complained.  But he didn’t.  He waited and relied on his Father.  He trusted and depended on the Spirit.

So the next time your kid whines, stop and remember that you’re a whiner too.  But in Christ you don’t have to whine.  You can submit to your Father’s will and quietly depend on the Spirit to lead you.

 

June 16, 2011

Moms Are Missionaries

I usually like to think of my audience as primarily dads, but this quote for the moms is to great to pass up

At the very heart of the gospel is sacrifice, and there is perhaps no occupation in the world so intrinsically sacrificial as motherhood. Motherhood is a wonderful opportunity to live the gospel. Jim Elliot famously said, “He is no fool who gives up that which he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.” Motherhood provides you with an opportunity to lay down the things that you cannot keep on behalf of the people that you cannot lose. They are eternal souls, they are your children, they are your mission field.

You can read the rest at the Desiring God blog here

June 4, 2011

Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick – A Review

With some parenting books, it is hard to read them cover to cover.  Often times when reading a parenting book I’ll go to the table of contents and flip to the section that covers the age range of my child.  “Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids With The Love of Jesus” by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson is different, you will not only read it cover to cover, but also find yourself reading it again and again.  This book will help you to see that your child’s biggest problem isn’t their sinful action, but their sinful hearts.  When reading this book you will see that your parenting can never be good enough, but only God’s grace can make your parenting sufficient to transform your child.

This book is written without being divided into practical application for the age range of children.  The reason for this is because when dealing with toddlers, teenagers and even adults there is no difference with the root of issues that come up.  Kids, just like adults, don’t need more rules to make them good and bring them closer to God.  “Give Them Grace” does not ignore the need for rules, training and discipline but it gives the crucial reminder that all of that is meant to lead to kids to Jesus.  “We are commanded to give them the law so that they will be crushed by it and see their need for a Savior. The law won’t make them good. It will make them despair of ever being good enough and in that way it will make them open to the love, sacrifice and welcome of their Savior, Jesus Christ.”

It isn’t just kids who need Jesus, but also parents.  The task of parenting is impossible without God’s grace.  Our best effort at parenting might produce “good kids” but it won’t change their hearts.  “Raising good kids is utterly impossible unless they are drawn by the Holy Spirit to put their faith in the goodness of another. You cannot raise good kids, because you’re not a good parent. There is only one good Parent, and he had one good Son. Together, this Father and Son accomplished everything that needed to be done to rescue us and our children from certain destruction.” One of the things I appreciated about this book is the humility of the authors.  They don’t claim to have it down or be good parents.  They are in the same boat as all of us and write with humility as they proclaim their own need for grace.

I wish Crossway would allow me to give out one free chapter of this book for you to read because by just reading one chapter I know you’d be convinced to buy the whole book.  Even if Crossway would allow me to give away one free chapter to convince readers to buy the book, it would be hard for me to pick just one that I think people should read because they are all so good.  If you want to apply the gospel to parenting and have your parenting be saturated in the gospel then I could not encourage you enough to buy this book.

A quick note to the men: this is the first Elyse Fitzpatrick book I have ever read.  My wife has read me selections of “Because He Loves Me” and I thought that book sounds good, but the cover is to feminine for me, maybe I’ll read it when an edition comes out with a camouflage cover.  Next my wife shared portions of “Comforts From The Cross,” the cover was less girly, but I feared losing man points because this wasn’t “Strength From The Cross.”  Please don’t make the mistake that Elyse Fitzpatrick only writes for a female audience.  This book isn’t just for mom’s, but also for dad’s.

October 26, 2010

The High Stakes Of Parenting

I have finally started to read “Gospel Powered Parenting” and a lot of my recent tweets are from that book. Here is an excellent quote from chapter two.

“Christians parent with one eye on eternity. Their children will live forever. This is a staggering thought. We cannot imagine, “forever.” Nevertheless, the destiny of our children either will be love that surpasses knowledge, joy inexpressible and full of glory, coupled with peace that passes understanding, or it will be weeping, wailing, and gnashing of teeth. There is no middle ground. Therefore, the Christian does not parent for this life only. The believing parent labors to prepare each child for the day of judgment. The stakes are inexpressibly high.” William Farley

June 4, 2010

Ken Griffey Jr. Retires

Filed under: baseball,Fatherhood — cubsfan1980 @ 10:20 pm
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There is nothing more all american than baseball.  As I think about fatherhood, one of the iconic pictures that comes to mind is a father and son or father and daughter having an evening round of catch after dinner.  There have been several father-son duos in baseball, but one of the most memorable is Ken Griffey Jr. and Sr.  Junior retired earlier this week and it was almost like a chapter on my childhood closed.  One of the most memorable moments of Griffey’s career came in 1990 when him and his father made history by not just playing together, but also hitting back to back homeruns.  Here is an excerpt from a piece that Sporting News did on the top moments of Jr.’s career.

August 31, 1990 – Playing With His Dad
September 14, 1990 – Back-to-Back Homers
In his second season in the Majors, Junior was joined mid-season in Seattle by his father. On August 31st of that year, the two took the field together for the first time, with Senior playing left and Junior in center. They both went 1-4 on the day and each scored a run.

Perhaps the most memorable father-son moment for the Griffey family came just two weeks later as the tandem hit back-to-back home runs.

For poignancy, no Griffey home run will ever match the one he hit off the Angels’ Kirk McCaskill on Sept. 14, 1990. What made this first-inning homer so memorable is that his father, Ken Griffey Sr., signed by the Mariners at age 40, had just homered off McCaskill, a two-run shot to center. Junior, 20, followed immediately with his 36th career homer, also to center. No father and son had ever played together, let alone hit back-to-back home runs.

you can read the rest of the story here

March 25, 2010

Parenting Advice For First Time Parents

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Pete Wilson has some do’s and don’ts for first time parents.  Parenting 101 | WithoutWax.tv by Pete Wilson.

February 19, 2010

Teaching A Toddler Scripture Memory

Filed under: communion with God,Family,John Piper,parenting — cubsfan1980 @ 10:02 am
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Traffic in the DC area is still pretty bad due to Snowpocalypse.  While driving in today I decided to listen to an old Piper sermon.  In the message I listened to Piper was talking about teaching his two month old daughter scripture memorization.  Prior to listening to this I had not thought about when to teach Miya Scripture verses, but Piper makes a good point about the sooner the better.

Talitha is now two. She is beginning to learn Bible verses by heart. She is also learning the forms of prayer. Why? Why go to the trouble of taking time and effort to repeat over and over the Bible to her? Very simple – when she is a teenager I want her to be godly and pure and holy and loving and humble and kind and submissive and wise. And the Bible says, as plain as day, this comes by treasuring up the Word of God in your heart. “Your word I have treasured in my heart, that I may not sin against you.”

Jesus put it like this in his great prayer for us in John 17:17, “Sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.” “Sanctify” is a Biblical word for making a person holy or godly or loving or pure or virtuous or spiritually wise. And these things I want for myself and for my children and for you. So what then should we do this year? If we are sanctified by the truth, and the Word of God is truth, what should we do?

If a doctor says, “You’re very sick and may die of your sickness, but if you will take this medicine, you will get well and live,” and you neglect to take the medicine – too busy, the pills are big and hard to swallow, just forgetful – you are going to stay sick and you may die. That’s the way it is with sin and spiritual immaturity. If you neglect what God tells you will sanctify you and make you mature and strong and holy, then you will not be mature and strong and holy. Reading, and meditating on and memorizing and cherishing the Word of God is God’s appointed way of overcoming sin and becoming a strong, godly, mature, loving, wise person.

via Open My Eyes That I May See :: Desiring God Christian Resource Library.

February 8, 2010

Rick Phillips on time with our kids

Filed under: Fatherhood,Rick Phillips,The Masculine Mandate — cubsfan1980 @ 8:19 am
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Rick Phillips is a quality guy and he once spoke at our college retreat.  Here is an excerpt from his newest book “The Masculine Mandate.”  It is a great exhortation on the role of father’s.

This is my simple agenda to ensure I am actively and intimately involved in the lives of my children: Read, Pray, Work, Play. I must read God’s Word to and with my children regularly. We must bear each others’ burdens in prayer and worship the Lord together at his throne of grace. My children need my positive, encouraging involvement in their work (and they need an invitation into some of mine). And we need to bind our hearts with laughter and joy in shared play, both one-on-one and as a complete family. This all requires time, for time is the currency with which I purchase the right to say, “My son, my daughter, give me your heart.”

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p. 103 from The Masculine Mandate (Reformation Trust, 2010)

via Time is the currency by Richard Phillips | Ligonier Ministries Blog.

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